Enough Posed Perfection- Can We Please Get REAL About Motherhood?!
My take on social media motherhood and what I wish people would talk about, instead.
Hi! If you're new here, I'm Emmy. A thirty-something-year-old divorced and remarried wife and mother of four, trying to change the narrative on marriage and motherhood and openly share the good, bad, and crap we all avoid in order to normalize REAL LIFE.
Sorry- am I rambling? I guess I just feel strongly about this topic. And while I realize we each have the right to use our platforms however the heck we want, here are the things I want to see more of and I guess- what you can expect from me.
Normal, Messy, Everyday Life
Not monochrome playrooms. Not perfectly dressed children. Not coordinated mommy-and-me outfits every day.
I want REAL.
Crumbs on the couch. Piles of laundry waiting to be washed. A toddler throwing a tantrum over fruit snacks.
Because when I scroll my feed and see nothing but perfection and staged glamour and lives straight out of Stepford, I want to puke a little. And more than that- it makes me feel really alone.
Is it me? Am I the only one NOT doing those things? Am I somehow less of a wife or woman or Mom because I don't live up to that standard of portrayed perfection?
Beyond the Feed
My guess is- no. I'm not the only one.
I'm not the only one dying to know that I'm not alone. I'm not the only one struggling with my toddler and feeling like nothing I do makes any difference. I'm not the only one bickering with my husband about who is more tired. I'm not the only one feeling like an awful friend because I don't have the time or energy it takes to commit to plans.
There is real life happening beyond this feed and THAT is the life I want to see.
I mean- why not just share our reality? Why must we pose ourselves and stage our homes to reflect a life we aren't living? It's just not for me.
Sharing My Journey or Nothing At All
And so, if you're still here then I want you know that is exactly what you can expect from me; reality. Candid, messy, unstaged reality.
Celebrating milestones one day and sharing my struggles the next. Making you laugh and cry and think deeply about who you are as a mother. Beautiful chaos and oversharing and TMI. Because that's me. And I'm guessing that might be you, too.
Let's Navigate Motherhood Together
I think you get it. And if this peaks to you and you want to feel inspired and SEEN as a mother, then you are my people and I am yours. Let's be friends.
Follow my candid journey on Instagram @emmythecandidmother